In this week’s episode, I talk about “5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life” by Bill Eddy, a lawyer and a therapist. In the book he goes into detail about high-conflict personality (“HCP”) types that are the source of many of the most intense relationship conflicts experienced by attorneys. If you think about […]
In this week’s episode, I talk about how I use routines to manage my morning anxiety. We have all experienced it: your alarm goes off in the morning and your body fills with dread, anxiety and worry about everything that happened yesterday and everything that is going to happen today. This carries on throughout the […]
In this week’s episode, I discuss why identifying your case as your “baby” can trigger your primal fight or flight response any time that “baby” is threatened. 99% of the time, this new case is not a special snowflake, not going to change the world and is not your “baby” to save. If the case […]
In this week’s episode, I talk about three main reasons why criticism leads to beliefs that cause such intense negative emotion. The fear of losing your tribe, fear of failure and fear of punishment is engrained in us by our biology, traditional educational system and our respective upbringings. I discuss how I struggled so much […]
I am happy to report that my goal of reading one book per month has been successful so far. Studies have shown that reading can reduce stress, increase focus and increase analytical thinking. It’s a wonderful mindfulness tool and I try to set aside at least 30 minutes per day to just sit and read. […]
In this week’s podcast episode, I discuss how to use mindfulness to change the beliefs that cause lawyers to panic when working on a legal writing assignment or project such as a brief or memo. Sometimes we can turn a brief into a monster of an assignment. We associate our overall self-worth with the outcome […]
My fellow litigators: sometimes you will be so sure that your case strategy will work and that someone else’s suggestion will not. And sometimes you will be completely and utterly wrong. If you do not accept that, you will experience the unnecessary emotional and physical consequences of failing to manage your mind. In this week’s […]
While doing some research on the intersection of mindfulness and psychology in preparation for a mindfulness seminar, I found something that clicked with me: the cognitive model by psychologist Albert Ellis that has been the backbone of cognitive behavioral science for decades and is extremely simple. A – Activating Event; B- Beliefs; and C- Consequences […]
In this week’s podcast episode, I discuss being a present lawyer. My fellow litigators: do you often emotionally cry wolf every time you promise yourself that you will feel better when you [insert future event here]? Do you tell your family, friends or significant other that when you finish this case, trial or project, you […]
In this week’s podcast episode, I discuss setting realistic boundaries in your law practice. If you do not set boundaries with your clients, adversaries, or partners, your productivity and motivation can suffer. Additionally, if you don’t set boundaries in your personal relationships, you may end up with less of them. This episode gives some examples […]