Overcoming the Fear of Asking for Help
I often talk to young lawyers who hesitate to ask questions at work. They have a fear that if they ask questions, the partners are going to believe that they don’t know what they’re doing. The problem is: you are a young lawyer and you don’t know what you’re doing yet. You must to ask […]
Your Job is Not Responsible for Your Feelings
I often hear people ask whether they should change jobs. They say their current job is not fulfilling. They ask “Should I leave my law firm?” “Should I leave private practice?” “Should I leave the public sector?” “Should I go In House?” “Should I just leave the law altogether?” I cannot answer those questions. Why? […]
Ep. #21: What I’m Reading: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
In this week’s episode, I talk about “5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life” by Bill Eddy, a lawyer and a therapist. In the book he goes into detail about high-conflict personality (“HCP”) types that are the source of many of the most intense relationship conflicts experienced by attorneys. If you think about […]
Ep. #20: Managing Morning Anxiety
In this week’s episode, I talk about how I use routines to manage my morning anxiety. We have all experienced it: your alarm goes off in the morning and your body fills with dread, anxiety and worry about everything that happened yesterday and everything that is going to happen today. This carries on throughout the […]
Ep. #19: That Case is NOT Your “Baby”
In this week’s episode, I discuss why identifying your case as your “baby” can trigger your primal fight or flight response any time that “baby” is threatened. 99% of the time, this new case is not a special snowflake, not going to change the world and is not your “baby” to save. If the case […]
Ep. #18: Criticism Will Not Kill You
In this week’s episode, I talk about three main reasons why criticism leads to beliefs that cause such intense negative emotion. The fear of losing your tribe, fear of failure and fear of punishment is engrained in us by our biology, traditional educational system and our respective upbringings. I discuss how I struggled so much […]
Ep. #17: What I’m Reading: Grit
I am happy to report that my goal of reading one book per month has been successful so far. Studies have shown that reading can reduce stress, increase focus and increase analytical thinking. It’s a wonderful mindfulness tool and I try to set aside at least 30 minutes per day to just sit and read. […]
Ep. #16: Panic-Free Legal Writing
In this week’s podcast episode, I discuss how to use mindfulness to change the beliefs that cause lawyers to panic when working on a legal writing assignment or project such as a brief or memo. Sometimes we can turn a brief into a monster of an assignment. We associate our overall self-worth with the outcome […]
Ep #15: Sometimes You Are Wrong
My fellow litigators: sometimes you will be so sure that your case strategy will work and that someone else’s suggestion will not. And sometimes you will be completely and utterly wrong. If you do not accept that, you will experience the unnecessary emotional and physical consequences of failing to manage your mind. In this week’s […]
Ep #14: The ABCs of Being a Mindful Lawyer
While doing some research on the intersection of mindfulness and psychology in preparation for a mindfulness seminar, I found something that clicked with me: the cognitive model by psychologist Albert Ellis that has been the backbone of cognitive behavioral science for decades and is extremely simple. A – Activating Event; B- Beliefs; and C- Consequences […]
Learning to Be a Present Lawyer
In this week’s podcast episode, I discuss being a present lawyer. My fellow litigators: do you often emotionally cry wolf every time you promise yourself that you will feel better when you [insert future event here]? Do you tell your family, friends or significant other that when you finish this case, trial or project, you […]
Setting Realistic Boundaries in Your Law Practice
In this week’s podcast episode, I discuss setting realistic boundaries in your law practice. If you do not set boundaries with your clients, adversaries, or partners, your productivity and motivation can suffer. Additionally, if you don’t set boundaries in your personal relationships, you may end up with less of them. This episode gives some examples […]
Changing Your Legal Mind to Reduce Stress
n this week’s podcast episode, I discuss stress, why its effect on lawyers is important and how to use mindfulness to manage it. The cognitive model introduced by American psychologist Albert Ellis set forth the A to E process in which humans process events that lead to stress: An Activating event, your Belief about that […]
5 Minute Meditation for Stress
This week’s 5 minute meditation is for lawyers who experience stress. When you are stressed out, your mind is racing. It is full of all of the things that you have to get done. It creates this feeling of being paralyzed. It makes you feel like you have so much to do but you have […]
5 Ways to Start a Spiritual Routine
This week’s podcast is about starting a spiritual routine. All busy lawyers know that it is difficult to take time out of their busy schedules for a spiritual routine. However, in my personal experience, a spiritual routine is essential for stress management and its effects are evident in my everyday life. If you would like […]
5 Minute Meditation for Beginners
This week’s meditation is for lawyers who have thought about trying meditation but think they do not have enough time. This is a 5 minute meditation where beginners can simply focus on breathing for a short period of time and then return to a busy day. After trying this meditation a few times, the beginner […]
Law School, Lies and Happiness
Listen to this episode! In this week’s podcast, I discuss a study I recently came across on happiness in the legal profession. In 2015, Lawrence S. Krieger from the Florida State University College of Law and Kennon M. Sheldon from the University of Missouri at Columbia ? Department of Psychological Sciences conducted a survey of […]
The Lonely Lawyer
In this week’s podcast, I talk about how lawyers are among the loneliest professionals. That should be of no surprise to us. This profession rewards isolation, there is a constant fear of being behind on billable hours and our workaholism can have a negative impact on our personal relationships, leading to further isolation and disconnection […]
Challenging the Opposing Counsel in Your Mind
Listen to this episode! As litigators, our jobs generally are to listen to the arguments of our opposing counsel, conduct extensive research to the contrary, and apply facts and law to oppose the argument. Why are we so good at challenging the arguments of others but we cannot seem to challenge the opposing counsel […]
Are Lawyers Addicted to Panic?
Listen to this episode! In this episode, I discuss the panic drug, why lawyers may be addicted to it, and how mindfulness can help lawyers identify it and replace it with healthier alternatives. To read more about the psychological study I mention, click here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-freedom/201104/are-you-addicted-anxiety-learn-how-not-be If you are interested in the Lawyers Who Brunch Meetup […]
Worst Case Scenario Solutions
Why are lawyers always focused on the worst case scenario? Well, that’s what they were taught to do in law school and what they are required to do in practice. Unfortunately, lawyers have a difficult time turning that worst case scenario switch off which can lead to paralyzing fear and anxiety that can reduce your […]
Being Mindful During Tough Times
Can being mindful help you during especially tough times? In this week’s episode of Being Mindful with the Spiritual Litigator, I talk about how mindfulness helped me cope with the emotional stress caused by a car accident I had in January. I talk about how I worked through guilt, decided not to go for the […]
Gratitude Journaling for Lawyers
In this episode, I discuss how gratitude journaling can help lawyers be mindful of the present moment, focus more positively and increase productivity. Find information on the gratitude study I mention in the episode here. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and share it with a fellow attorney. Contact me at TheSpiritualLitigator@gmail.com If you are […]
Meditation for Lawyers
In this episode, I discuss how meditation can help attorneys decompress after work, detach from the stresses of the day and reduce overall anxiety. I discuss how to meditate, the types of meditation that I typically practice, when to meditate and what to do if your mind wanders or if you get distracted during the […]
What is “Being Mindful with The Spiritual Litigator?”
On this episode, I will talk to you about who I am and what to expect from this podcast. Download This Episode!
How Your Mindset Affects the People Around You
Earlier today, I participated in a #Peri10K #Sharathon and did a Facebook Live Video about “How Your Mindset Affects the People Around You.” The first thing I thought about was the mindset of perfectionism and how it affects the people that lawyers typically interact with. A perfectionist is a person who refuses to […]
Big Announcement: My Article on Mindfulness Got Published!
I am extremely excited to share that my article “Mindfulness: A Simpler Way to Alleviate Attorney Stress” was published in the American Bar Association’s GP Solo magazine this month. In this article, I openly discuss my challenges with stress and anxiety as a result of my legal practice and how using mindfulness techniques such as […]
The Joy of the Journey into a the New File
One of the most exciting things about being a litigator is receiving a new file. I love pouring through all the documents, jotting down relevant dates and incidents on a timeline and formulating a story in my mind. Practicing law is like taking a big picture, transforming it into a puzzle, throwing all the puzzle […]
The Wire and the Law Part 2: It’s All In the Game
In this week’s video, I discuss how one of the best quotes from The Wire, “It’s all in the game,” can change a litigator’s perspective on situations and circumstances that can often be stressful and frustrating.
The Wire and the Law
This week’s video discusses how busy litigators can learn from the characters in The Wire. Here, I discuss one of my favorite scenes in Season 3, where Lester Freamon and Jimmy Mcnulty face off about which is more important: the job or the life outside of the job?
3 Ways to Cope With Losing
Young lawyers can be discouraged to find out that hard work does not necessary result in a win. In this video, I discuss 3 ways that I learned how to cope with the fact that the results of cases are often outside of my control.
Affirmation of the Week: I Recognize the Power of Being in Nature
Last week was stressful. Nothing particularly went wrong. It was just a convergence of several deadlines at once in addition to other non-billable work that needed to get done. I felt like I literally dragged myself home last Friday. And then, something wonderful happened: the sun came out on Saturday and it was finally warm […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Make Time For the People I Love
I cannot stress how important this affirmation is. No matter how much work you need to do, how many deadlines you need to meet or how many big wins you get in your career, those pale in comparison to the importance of being around the people you love. We’ve all heard people say that at […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Am Exactly Where I Am Supposed to Be
There is something about uncertainty that freaks most people out. When I was in high school, the next logical step was college. When I was in college, the next logical step was law school. When I was in law school, the next logical step was graduating, passing the bar exam and finding a job. Now, […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Will Not Take Someone Else’s Bad Mood Personally
Most professionals work with people who have strong personalities. They have good days and bad days just like we do. And every once in a while, we encounter them on a bad day. We are all grown adults but we have a part of us that hates to be yelled at and wants to be […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Am Surrounded By People Who Love and Support Me
Nothing can cure a stressful day better than time spent with people who love and support you. Whether it be family, friends or supportive acquaintances, just being around the individuals who genuinely care about you can make a huge difference. This doesn’t mean that these individuals have to be physically near you in order to […]
Affirmation of the Week: Everything That I Need Comes To Me in Perfect Timing
Do you ever have one of those days where everyone that you need to speak to in order to finish several assignments is unavailable? Every email you send goes unanswered and you are convinced that everyone is deliberately not clicking the read receipt confirmation so they can pretend they didn’t see your email. Every person […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Trust My Journey
When a got the job offer to move across the country five years ago–out of my comfort zone, away from my family and friends–I knew within my heart that I was meant to accept the job. I didn’t care that I couldn’t afford to bring furniture. I knew that it would work out. I didn’t […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Accept Uncertainty as an Opportunity for Growth
When I walk into work expecting to work on one thing and something unexpected comes up that requires a lot of my attention and time, I must adapt, make sure I complete both assignments or get extension on one. When I get a new file with one set of facts and another set of facts […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Acknowledge the Negative and Thrive in the Positive
Often, people ask me if the practice of law is what I expected it would be. I always reply that it was actually better than I expected. It also has the inevitable ups and downs inherent in all career paths. The practice of law isn’t all cupcakes and sunshine. It requires almost constant critical thinking, […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Welcome Exciting and New Changes Into My Life
Being open to change makes you more likely to identify and attract new opportunities into your life. Plus, one new exciting opportunity often leads to another and soon, circumstances and changes may lead you in a direction that you thought you would never go. Change can sometimes be scary because predictability and stability are things […]
Coping with Challenging People Tip #4: Compassionately Identify the Underlying Causes of a Person’s Rudeness
People aren’t mean in a vacuum. There is always a reason why. Sometimes, compassionately identifying the reason for the person’s behavior towards you may be helpful in coping with the situation. First, the person may be fundamentally unhappy and by making others feel small, that person may have momentary feelings of superiority and importance. Second, […]
Coping with Challenging Personalities Tip # 3: Accept That Rude People Think They Are Good People
One of my favorite books is Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends & Influence People.” The first chapter of the book explores how murderers, gangsters and thieves in the 1920s believed they were good, misunderstood and undervalued. If none of these people blamed themselves for any of the pain they caused others, what makes us […]
Coping with Challenging People Tip #2: Psalms 91 and 92 Empower Me Against Rude People
Admittedly, I am not a super-religious person. But Psalms 91 and 92 are my go-to whenever I encounter a person with a challenging personality who I can’t seem to get away from. These verses make me feel empowered, supported and free of the emotional turmoil that the person normally seems to cause me. Usually I’ll […]
Coping with Challenging People Tip #1: Pretend that Rude People Are Childhood Toys
No matter how positive you are, you cannot control the fact that jerks exist and that you have to interact with them in professional settings. Whenever I have to work with someone who is unreasonable, ridiculous or just plain nasty, I visualize them in my mind’s eye as the Fisher Price Little People toys I […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Am Motivated to Maintain a Healthy Body
I don’t really believe in New Year’s resolutions because I believe this is the time of year where they all fail. I did, however, tell myself that I was going to make a conscious effort to be consistent with workouts and healthy eating. It is difficult to maintain a workout plan when your work plan […]
Affirmation of the Week: No One Can Make Me Upset Without My Permission
This is a tough one. The first time I heard this affirmation, I was annoyed. If a person is being a jerk, then how is it my fault when I get upset? Clearly, it is that person’s fault for being a jerk! After really thinking about it, however, I realized how powerful this affirmation was. […]
A Cluttered Desk Represents a Cluttered Mind.
A cluttered desk is commonplace for a lawyer. But it is also something that subconsciously adds to an already stressful situation. I find that when I am scattered and having difficulty focusing on one assignment, the best thing to do is clear my desk off. It will keep you from getting distracted by the 10 […]
Self Doubt Fades & Confidence Builds With Time
Recently, I realized something. That little voice that used to tell me that I wasn’t good enough or that I didn’t belong here and told me I wasn’t a good writer or a good lawyer wasn’t shouting from the back of my skull like it used to in the beginning. It used to take me […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Expect to Interact with the Best Version of Every Person I Meet
We all know clients, adversaries, co-counsel or judges who have a reputation for having strong and sometimes challenging personalities. This affirmation reminds us to approach each of these individuals with the expectation that we will interact with their best self. This means, that when we encounter these individuals, we will have an expectation of a […]
Sometimes, It Is Better to Keep Your Self-Improvement Ventures to Yourself
I believe that the key to manifesting success is to avoid speaking with people about it. Sure, there may be some people who will encourage you in your journey of self improvement and may be inspired to start their own journey because of you. Others, however, won’t understand what you’re doing and may even say […]
When You Finally Do That Assignment You’ve Been Putting Off and You Realize It Was Actually Easy.
You may love practicing law, but not every case or assignment is going to be engaging, interesting or fun. When you find yourself putting off an assignment, try to work on it first thing in the morning. With a cup of coffee in your hand and the morning’s motivation at your disposal, you will be […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Take Everything One Case At a Time
My fellow litigators, you may currently have a case or several cases that are really stressing you out. You may have an adversary that won’t stop writing nasty emails, a client who disagrees with your advice, or a Judge that rules against you on every issue. These challenges may lead to your mind creating the […]
Why do we call an effort to improve ourselves a “challenge?”
These days, it seems like everything that is supposedly good for us is often called a “challenge” such as diets, exercise plans, fundraisers, etc. Calling it a challenge encourages you to start doing it, but it also suggests that it will be difficult, mildly inconvenient and that you get to stop doing it one day. […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Am Successful NOW
Are you waiting for some specific event, award or moment to define your success? This is a byproduct of a belief system that you have to “pay your dues” to be successful. Yes, you have to go to law school to be a lawyer but there is no set amount of work you need to […]
If You Want to See Time Fly, Ask for a Two-Week Adjournment
“If you want to see time fly, ask for a two-week adjournment.” I heard a Judge say this during a CLE a few years ago and he was absolutely correct. As the work load becomes heavier the time seems to fly faster and faster. Time moves at an unnatural pace when you are a lawyer. […]
Limit Your Consultation Time
My fellow litigators, have we all experienced this, or is it just me? You meet with a potential client, even though you usually don’t do free consultations. You spend over an hour with them, going over the strengths and weaknesses of their case. They thank you for your time and say they will be back […]
When is the Last Time You Sat Back and Said, “This is Why I Do This.”
Last week, I argued a fairly straight forward Motion in Superior Court. My co-counsel, adversary and the Judge were all women. There were pointed questions on and off the record regarding the case status and the implications of the grant or denial of the Motion. All parties were prepared and passionate and after nearly an […]
Affirmation of the Week: “I Accept Where I Am Right Now.”
Some of us spend most of our lives and careers wishing we were somewhere else. When we were in law school, we wished we were lawyers. When we became lawyers, we wished we could absorb all the experience and expertise of the partners in the firm and do what they do. The affirmation “I accept […]
Young Lawyers: Stop Under Billing!
You are a first year associate and it took you 2 hours to fully research an issue and 3 hours to write and proofread a 2-page memo. There’s no way you can bill the time that you actually spent on the project, right? Absolutely. Unless your supervising partner tells you otherwise, bill your time honestly […]
How Do You Save Your Billable Time?
My fellow litigators: how do you save your billable time? Throughout the day, I have so many potential distractions lurking around my work desk. Social media websites and apps on my phone, the temptation to look up sports experts’ reactions to the Detroit Lions’ chances of winning a playoff game (Lions fans: we’ve been here […]
Learn From Each Loss. Remain Humble With Every Win.
My fellow litigators, as you are aware, you will win some cases and will lose some cases. In reality, you, personally, are not really winning or losing. You are taking the facts you are given in each case and trying to tell the best story that you can. Sometimes those facts are good, sometimes those […]
How many hours do you need to bill this month?
My fellow Litigators: it is a new year. Do you know how many hours you need to bill this month to be on target for the billable year? Have you estimated how many days you need to work each month this year to satisfy your billable hour requirement? Does the thought of answering these questions […]
Affirmation of the Week: “The Universe is for Me and So is Everything Else.”
So often, we are bogged down with our negative thinking and limiting beliefs. How many times, when something bad has happened, have you said, “This always happens to me,” “This always goes wrong,” or “I knew this wasn’t going to work.” On a subconscious level, all of these negative thoughts and beliefs come from a […]
Affirmation of the Week: “This, or Something Better.”
As we approach the end of the year, we all have time to reflect on the last 51 weeks. There are things we are happy about, things we are sad about, and maybe things that we wish we could change. But every year we are reminded that we don’t have control over many of the […]
Affirmation of the Week: “I Set Realistic Boundaries at Work.”
Does this mean that you can leave work whenever you want to? Not necessarily. Does this mean that you can tell your boss, “I’m not working weekends ever again?” I wouldn’t recommend it. For lawyers, boundaries are less about saying what you’re not going to do and more about common sense proper planning for self-care. […]
Affirmation of the Week “I make time to properly take care of my mind, body and spirit.”
As the year comes to a close, the stress levels start to go up. You have work to do, you have gifts to buy and you have to worry about everything else and everyone else but yourself. This affirmation reminds us all to take a moment for ourselves. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep. Try […]
Affirmation of the Week: “I Trust in My Own Process.”
One day when I was in law school, a professor announced in class that because we attended a 4th tier law school, we would not work in a law firm. He said that the best we could hope for was to be solo practitioners and he even questioned our ability to be successful as solos […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Am Open to Receiving Constructive Criticism
Lawyers have egos. We try to remain humble, open to learning new things and trying to improve. But, let’s face it: we hate being wrong, we hate making mistakes and we hate when those mistakes are pointed out by our supervisors, adversaries or (worst case scenario) judges. The reality is, however, that mistakes will happen […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Let Go of All Worries
I believe that we attract what we focus on and I believe that worry only attracts people and situations that create more things to worry about. This does not mean that concerns that you have are not legitimate, but worrying puts out an energy of powerlessness, lack of control, and even worse, victimization. Remain diligent, […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Am a Powerful Creator
Whether you believe in God, the Universe, or some benevolent force out there that orders your life, you have the ability to create situations in your life, whether those situations are positive or negative. For example, you have the power to create drama or peace in your life depending the friends you choose. You have […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Am in Control of My Professional Success
In the practice of law, you don’t have control over much. You can’t control the facts of the cases you are assigned. You can’t control who your adversaries, clients, witnesses or who your Judge will be. You can, however, control how you react to all of the situations that are thrown at you. You can […]
Hours With Loved Ones Are More Important Than Billable Hours
To all the litigators out there: If you died tomorrow and you had time to think before you died, would you say to yourself “I wish I had billed more hours” or would you say I wish I spent more time with my family” or “I wish I had spent more time with my friends” […]
Affirmation of the Week: I Forgive Myself For the Mistakes I Have Made
This week’s affirmation acknowledges that mistakes can and will happen in the practice of law but it is important for lawyers to not beat themselves up. Learn from the mistake, forgive yourself and move forward.
My Affirmation of the Week: “Life is Fun.” Or is it?
About 10 months ago, my sorority sisters agreed to have a group trip to New York City. And I panicked. I immediately thought about all the work I had to do, how I wouldn’t be able to work that weekend if I needed to and how I simply didn’t have enough time. Seriously. 10 months […]
Mindful Movie Review: Tony Robbins’ “I Am Not Your Guru”
I recently watched Tony Robbins’ documentary “I Am Not Your Guru” on Netflix. The below video is my review. Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
What Women’s Wrestling Can Teach Us About Women in the Legal Profession
I love watching women dominate in a sport that has been dominated by men for so long. Similarly, I love seeing women excel in the practice of law which was also created by men to be practiced by men. Saturday night’s NXT Takeover Brooklyn may prove to be World Wrestling Entertainment (“WWE”)’s Pay Per View of the […]
Quick Success Tip for Young Professionals: Get a Hobby
Do you work too much? Do you constantly tell your friends that you can’t go out after work because you are working late on an assignment? Do you find yourself emotionally invested in the outcomes of your assignments or client interactions? Will a bad day at work derail your entire week? In order to strike […]
How to Attract Better Clients By Identifying the Value that You Provide
When is the last time you stopped and thought about how much value you provide in your career? How do you define value? Salary Does not Define Value The value that we provide in our careers is not measured by the amount of compensation earned. Yes, value is often measured by what we do in […]
Why You Should Drop the Fear and Just Get Started
Every time I start going to the gym again for the first time in a while, I have to ignore the excuses my brain makes to put it off for one more day. I know that going to the gym is extremely beneficial for me physically, emotionally and spiritually. I know that a regular workout […]
The Professional Addiction to the Panic Drug
On Friday, I was supposed to fly home to Michigan at 6:30 am so I took the day off from work. Instead, the flight was cancelled and I had to reschedule for Saturday. After rescheduling my flight, I got back in bed and slept and slept and slept until around noon. I hadn’t slept that […]
Why We Focus On Bad Reviews and How to Attract More Happy Clients
Throughout our working lives, we must come to the simple conclusion that we cannot please everyone. No matter how hard we try, not all clients or customers will be happy with the value we provide. For most of us, we remain employed or remain successful in our businesses because of all the positive feedback and […]
Using Affirmations to Eliminate Your Limiting Beliefs
Every morning, I get up early, turn on my TV, turn on my Xbox, go to the Youtube app, select a video on the Yoga With Adriene Channel and complete a yoga practice. At the end of this morning’s video, Adriene offered a very powerful affirmation that I want to share with all of you: “The Universe […]
3 Ways to Regain Your Confidence When Self Doubt Attacks
I consider myself to be confident in my abilities as an attorney. But sometimes when I sit down to write a brief or prepare to go to court, I get these waves of anxiety. Then, my inner voice comes out of nowhere saying things like, “You are terrible at what you do,” or “You are […]
Letting Go of the Past So You Can Move Forward
I received some pretty positive feedback on a Periscope broadcast I did on Monday, and I thought I would share it with my blog audience. The total run time was over 15 minutes, so I split it up into two parts. During this broadcast, I discussed why it is so important to let go of the past so […]
Why I Love Gratitude Journaling
Yesterday I wrote about my law of attraction philosophy. To quickly recap, I believe that we are constantly attempting to balance our current self with our highest self. The ultimate goal is to make the two come into alignment. When they do, success and abundance flows easily and effortlessly. As I wrote yesterday, one of […]
Why I love Vision Boarding
The law of attraction can be complicated to explain. There is a lot of information out there and it can be overwhelming to figure out what you can do to improve your life once you realize that you control your reality. I have tried several techniques and just like a crash diet I have gone […]
How I Used a Vision Board to Manifest Two Job Offers
I have previously written about the benefits of vision boarding and how I have attracted various things by simply choosing images that represent what I want and putting them somewhere I can see them often. You can make a vision board for anything, as long as it feels good when you look at it. I think the […]
Quick Business Tip for Young Lawyers: Take Advantage of Opportunities to Get to Know Your Supervisors Outside the Office
In order to be successful as a young lawyer, you should get to know the people you work with outside of the office. You’re never going to get to know your fellow firm colleagues or supervisors by interacting with them solely in the office. You’ll understand how they work, you may have passing personal conversations, but […]
Is A Fear of Success Holding You Back From Professional Progress?
We have all dealt with fear of failure when it comes to our professional progress. What if it doesn’t work? What if no one likes it? What if it was a complete waste of time? We navigate through this minefield of doubt on a regular basis and we find ways to overcome and cope with the […]
Are You Subconsciously Sabotaging Your Desires?
You want more money. You want to go on vacation. You want to be more successful in your career. You study the LOA, you remain mindful and positive, but you cannot seem to manifest what you want. What is going on? You may be subconsciously sabotaging your desires. You Do Not Like Who You Want […]
4 Ways to Align With a Professional or Business Goal
Many professionals and business people have been applying the law of attraction to their lives for some time and have seen the positive benefits of it. But they sometimes feel stuck when it comes to seeking specific outcomes. They are often unsure of how to get into alignment with what they want when their goal […]
Quick Success Tip for Young Lawyers: Maintain a Positive Attitude
The following is an excerpt from an article I wrote for the State Bar Association Diversity Newsletter In order to be successful as a young lawyer, you have to enjoy what you are doing and maintain a positive attitude. You are going to work late nights; you are going to have the occasional challenging adversary; […]
When “Acting as if” and “Letting go” Work Together
Basic LOA teaching tells us that if we want to manifest something into our lives, we must act as if that thing is in our lives already. This leads to the feeling of that thing being in our lives and causes us to be a match to that thing. Once we are a match to […]
Simple Ways to Meditate
I received a question asking how to meditate and I decided it would be a good idea to do a post on it. I immediately started writing and thought that I would post it the next day. Instead, I was hit with a huge amount of resistance and self doubt. I began thinking about how […]
5 Ways to Begin and Maintain a Spiritual Routine
Whether you just discovered the Law of Attraction or have know about it for a long time, all professionals know that it is difficult to take time out their busy schedules for a spiritual routine. In my personal experience, a spiritual routine is essential for stress management and its effects are evident in my everyday […]
If You Don’t See Yourself as a Priority, Others May Not See You At All
Summer has ended and Fall is here. This means all organizations that have been dormant throughout the summer are in the process of cramming in all of their programs and events before the holiday season. After only a few weeks, I am exhausted. Between working hard to close out the billable year at work and […]
What Do Spiritual People Mean When They Say You Have to “Make Room” for a Relationship?
The first time I read The Secret, I read the chapter on relationships hoping to find a simple formula for magically bringing someone into my life. Instead, I read about the importance of “making room” for a relationship. The book used an example of a person who made room in her apartment for another person […]
Trusting the Journey
Four years ago, I moved from the Midwest to the East Coast with an air mattress, two folding chairs, a TV, a dinner tray to use as a TV stand and my clothes. I slept on that air mattress for about four months until I saved enough money to buy a real bed. I didn’t […]
How the Universe Used Humor to Save Me from My Workaholism
In a perfect world, we would all set strong boundaries at work, refuse to take on more assignments than we should and leave at the end of a traditional 8 hour work day to enjoy life. Unfortunately, some of us find ourselves in a pattern of saying “yes” to every assignment available, working ridiculous hours and […]
When you Enjoy Your Job 95% of the Time and Today is the 5%
No matter how much you enjoy your job, you’re going to have one of those days where it seems like everything is going wrong. What do you do when even the simplest of tasks seem insurmountable and you are just a wreck? Most conventional LOA teachers say encouraging things like, “think positive thoughts,” “meditate,” or […]
How Using Vision Boards Helped Me Manifest Free Movies, a Treadmill and an Apartment
When I discovered the LOA, I read a lot about the power of vision boards and decided to give it a try. Most websites suggested getting a bunch of magazines, cutting out pictures and gluing them to a board. There was only one problem with that: I HATE arts and crafts with a passion. I […]
How I Attracted a Job in a Crappy Economy – PART II
I began writing this post after working an 8am to 8pm day. That is common in my line of work, and despite the long hours, I can still honestly say that I enjoy my job. Before I finished the state court clerkship that I mentioned in Part I, I had a choice between my current job and another in […]
How I Attracted a Job in a Crappy Economy – PART I
I often hear people who have just discovered the LOA lament about all the years they have “wasted” not knowing they had control over their lives. I think it’s important to remember that even when we were not aware of the LOA, it was always working. I look back on how I was able to […]
My Introduction to the Law of Attraction
It was 2011. I had recently graduated from law school into a rough legal job market, accepted a job as a state court judicial law clerk and moved across the country to a city where I knew virtually no one. I was making a meager salary and paying more money in rent than I had […]